Who am I ??????

Washik

This is me Washik Amin and I would like to express myself to you. I have a simple personality with a heart which is cared for my beloved always….And I value honesty in any relationship. Because at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is the truth. I like to be swept off my feet, I LOVE LOVE LOVE surprises!

I am moody. I can be super sweet and attached to someone then be a total snob the next day...

Don’t ask me why... Ha-ha. I am a mystery even to myself on that one.

I'm unpredictable and insatiable. I guess it’s because I get bored easily.

I hope my girl friend will be charming, would carry my purse even if it’s... I don’t like wasting my time on people I don’t have anything in common with.

“S0 you have to keep the synch alive between our conversations otherwise you will reach the dead end.”

I only love the people that truly care for me. Their inspiration in life…

"Like grains of sand so easily you let me slip through your hands....my advice is get a better grip on the next handful because I'm gone with the wind".

People may judge me at first on how I react to things, I am really like that. But if you just had the chance to get to no me deeper, you'll totally understand and say "He’s so HOT!!”

I like to dream. I always dream which kind of dreams never become true. Yea… I properly know these dreams never become real. But I live in fanciful dream.

Somebody ask me-Whom do I love?

The only one answer is--- Gum ashle shopno ashe, Shopno ashle sha ashe; Gum na ashle shopno ashe na, Are shopno na ashle sha……….. (When I am asleep dreams make palace into my eyes and than she some. But when I am not in a state of sleep dreams don’t make edifice and she………..) I don’t know who she is? I can only imagine but can’t draw her. She is really unknown to me………………

All of my life I have waiting for all she give to me. When open my heart it shows me how to love unselfishly I have dreamed of this thousand times before, in my dreams I couldn’t love her more I would still have her here until the end of time she is all I need in my life.

My love life is quite boring at the moment because there isn’t one. I always have agreements about love and all that crap. I find it a very interesting topic because it’s not easy to understand. I understand that love is a very good thing when it works out but I also know that it can be very painful as well. Like everybody, I enjoy dating and getting to know people and stuff but I just find it very repetitive altogether. I am very happy for my friend though. She is currently in love with someone very special and she’s very lucky to have found happiness.

I Love the Simpson, mainly because it a good laugh and the ideas are so random and different, its so ruinously funny. I can go on and on about the Simpson but I think that’s just going to bore you to death considering that you also know the Simpson very well, hopefully. Like everyone, I have friends. (Thank God) However, I don’t have many close friends, only a small group of close friends that I trust and know very well.

Well, I am quite young I think. Just graduated high school and I am in first year university now. I do enjoy university life but prefer high school due to the work load. University lifestyle is fun though; the people are all very mature and independent. its very different but this whole notion of maturity worries me because it makes me feel like I’m growing abet too quickly.

I’m quite upset and frustrated at the moment. But this is as a result of the confusion I’ve been encountering these past few weeks. But that’s something I have to get my mind around before I explode... So I won't bore you with that.

Ps: If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?

I totally admit that I am a very unique boy. I laugh a lot and laugh at practically anything and everything. I do a lot of random things but am proud of them because I think it makes me different. But I realize no matter how different I try to be, I am still classified as a typical boy.

I am unmindful and vagrant. It is so hard to remember somebody or something. I can’t remember many things. I always think something but nothing……….. I am always busy because I don’t do anything (Conversely- I do nothing because I don’t have time to do something). Ha… Ha… Really…. But I’m a student.

I always love to live alone in any dark space may be world’s end even at the time of death.

People complain me that I am selfish but I can’t realize how they discover me? I think, I am Introvert and conservative but not selfish. I predominantly concerned with my own thought, nothing else……

I know that I have a life sequence. Every incident of my life occurs consequently. I can realize that but can’t control or manage that sequence.

Favorite Person: Holy Prophet Muhammad (sm).

Favorite Movies:

Bridge To Terabithia, Titanic, Matrix, A walk to remember, A lot like love, The notebook, If only, The wedding date, Another Cinderella story, Penelope, forgetting Sarah marshal, Tokyo drift, fast and the furious, comedy movies etc.

Favorite Music:

Thanks gives to Allah, Right here waiting, Waiting for tonight, Waiting for a girl, The power of love, Sacrifice, Beat it, About us, Careless whisper, As long as you love me, Rainy days, Sexy lady, Take my breath away, Believe, Heaven, Hazard, Wonderful Tonight, Flying Without You etc.

Favorite TV Shows:

Opera, Ellen, Friends, Law and order, The closer, Top chef, The bachelor, Gossip girl, The riches, One tree hill etc.

MOSTLY ASKED QUESTIONS TO ME:

SOMEONE: In the opposite sex, what do you notice first?

ME: eyes, lips, leg everything, (maybe) grins*

oh and most importantly hygiene - got to smell clean and hot

SOMEONE: If a girl asked you out, how do you reject him?

ME: that’s easy. I always wear the promise ring my girl friend gave me so I would just simply flash it and tell the dude go capture someone else. ^_^

SOMEONE: Can you be a loyal boyfriend?

ME: Definitely... But if I leave, chase me please. Because I love that too. (But I will never leave you!)

SOMEONE: What's the most pleasurable thing you can do all by yourself?

ME: I love Q Tips deep inside my ear canal. Feel s00 good. Ha-ha whew*

I do it every morning and before I sleep..........

SOMEONE: What would you prefer a hot flash fling or a steady long term relationship?

ME: a hot steady relationship. ^__^

J: Is it true that Night Shift Workers has a very greedy appetite for an afternoon love?

ME: Geesz. You have a filthy mind. Why don’t you get a night shifter and see for our self. Ha-ha

N.B: There is no special reason for this article; I just wanna steal some moment out of your busy life and hope I can make you smile……..

For any feedback you can reach me by using my contact information or visiting http://washik.blogspot.com/

Thank you,

Washik

Sorry: Is it the most difficult word to say?

Washik

How often have you seen a Bangalee say "sorry"?

Does it help that there is no translation for the word "sorry" in Bangla? The closest we come to it is "dukhkhito" (I am sad), or maybe "bhul korsi" (I made a mistake). But apart from that English word, there is no other way to express succinctly our apologies for having made a mistake.

Is that why we, as a nation, tend not to apologise?

I believe not: if we can incorporate words such as "chair" and "pencil", why not use the word "sorry" whenever necessary?

A friend of mine once explained that he does not ever apologise. "If you kill a man, and then you say sorry, what good does that do?" he asks.

I commend the sentiment, if he believes that it is better to try to never commit an offence, than to be a repeat offender and repenter. But it is innate nature for all of us to try to stay on the whiter side of grey areas. Despite our efforts, it is impossible for us to escape from making a few mistakes in our lifetimes, and then becoming aware, soon afterwards, that those were mistakes.

Why is it then that the majority of Bangladeshis, after becoming aware of their irreversible mistakes, refuse to apologise for them?

Having refused to apologise, most people also refuse to appear as obstinate and insensitive as they actually are, and simply deny acknowledging thit they made any mistake whatsoever. This situation of a person's refusing to admit that he/she is merely mortal and prone to err, has led to the innumerable times that offenders try to justify their behaviour, try to blame the consequences on someone else, or simply deny that they were the perpetuator of the offence.

I think this situation on refusing to apologise is unique to us Bangalees: in any other part of the world, the word "sorry" is quite a common one to hear.

From minor offences, from accidentally scratching a person's car (which leads to the quite common Dhaka scenario of equally-indignant drivers, rickshawallahs and by-standers engaging in a scuffle in the middle of the road) to more grievous ones, such as arresting innocent juveniles, we seem incapable, as a nation, of admitting to our faults.

It is hard to explain why this should be so. Perhaps we feel some sense of insecurity, and fear |hat admitting to any flaw in our own self would be the equivalent of dealing, simultaneously, a great blow to our egos, our sense of self-worth, and the supposed high opinion that others hold of us.

It is often hard for us to see beyond the present moment. Like little children stealing cookies, we persist in believing that everyone else will continue to think that we are angels if we refuse to admit to our wrongs: even when we are caught with our hand in the jar, we engage in elaborate denences and denials.

However, what we fail to see is that there is life beyond the present moment. Admitting our blunders will not automatically paint us with tar and soot. While some may be shocked and disappointed to hear of our offences, people are more likely to respect us in the long run, for having the courage to admit to our imperfections. Whether it is a business, casual or personal relationship, apologies, when necessary, can help to improve or mend the relationship. And, by apologising, we are able to face our faults unswervingly and boldly, and learn from them for our future.

Perhaps there are many who would think that I am engaging in much ado about nothing. After all, hy should apologies be so necessary? When one has committed a mistake, it is over and done with: there is no point in crying over spilt milk.

I do not, however, believe that apologies, like any other part of civilized manners, can be so easily forgotten. Rather than destroying it, they are essential to preserving our own sense of worth, and placating an injured one.

As humans, we are shocked when oppressors do not apologise for their oppressions, when world leaders refuse to apologise for genocide. As a nation, we are still waiting for a proper apology for the war crimes perpetuated during our Liberation War.

Why, then, should we try to diminish the importance of apologies in our personal lives?

Looking back, but moving ahead....!!!

Washik

It's been over three decades since Bangladesh was born, and the mention of March 26, 1971 brings back terrible memories. We at Lifestyle magazine believe that all that our people endured in order to bring us our freedom should be an inspiration to look ahead and be proud of what we’ve achieved.

7 deadly skin sins......

Skin care

Some women (and sometimes men) have great skin but that does not mean they were born with it. You can curse them all you want but great skin has a lot to do with how you care for it. Some myths prevent many from getting that glowing complexion that Romeo thought was a light shinning yonder.

1: It's not just in the genes

Well, okay, genetics play a role in how your skin looks from the size of your pores to its texture and color. But if your mom looked like Michele Pfeiffer don't count on you looking like a younger version. Habits make more of a difference than genetics with the biggest culprit in aging being sun exposure as well as stress and sleep habits. Skipping sunscreen and sleeping on your side or stomach can all exacerbate and create wrinkles, adult acne and texture changes. Smoking and/or drinking doesn't help either.

2: The SPF number only does not tell you how much protection you're getting from the sun.

There are two types of damaging sun rays: UVA, which are responsible for aging the skin; and UVB, which are responsible for burning it. The SPF number on a bottle of sunscreen only gives a guide for how much UVB protection the product offers. It doesn't tell you whether or not the product protects from UVA rays (which are also responsible for melanoma). All sunscreens protect from UVB rays. To fully protect yourself, however, look for a product that contains UVA-blocking ingredients, too, such as zinc or avobenzone (Parsol 1789), and reapply often. Alternatively you could ask NASA to build you a high tech sun ray shielding hijab.

3: You don't necessarily need a separate sunscreen and moisturizer.

Sunscreens already add moisture to your skin because of their ingredients so if you have oily skin, you may want to skip the separate moisturizer. For those who prefer to wear both products, apply the moisturizer first; allow to dry, then apply the sunscreen. Either way, be sure to wear sunscreen daily because "Every day is sun day" even when the weather is overcast. Conversely, you could limit yourself to becoming a vampire and only going out at night.

4: Cosmetic creams don't turn back time for your skin.

Miracles don't come in a bottle, jar or tube. As you age, your facial bones shrink, you lose fat under the skin, and your skin begins to become loose. Rubbing on a cream isn't going to address these things. What's more, cosmetic skincare products cannot, by FDA law, include medications, which are the only things that truly change the structure of the skin. What cosmetic creams can do is temporarily plump up and hydrate your skin. Dermatologists can help in this regard. Problem in our country is that you first need help to find a good dermatologist.

5: Sun damage happens throughout your life

Recent studies have shown that by age 18, you've only accumulated 18 to 23 percent of the sun damage you'll incur over a lifetime. That means that there's still time to protect your skin from the sun and put off sun-induced aging. Do this by using sunscreen and products with sun-damage reversing ingredients such as vitamin C and retinol.

6: If your skin is sensitive to a specific ingredient.

Just because you react to a good ingredient in one formulation doesn't mean you'll have the same response to another formulation. Effective cosmetic skincare ingredients like AHAs, salicylic acid and retinol can be irritating. If you try a product containing one of these ingredients, start slowly to allow your skin time to adjust. If, after two weeks, you still notice irritation, try another product containing the ingredient. You may find that a different mix will agree with your skin.

Also sticking only with products that worked for you in the past may not be a good idea. Human bodies change as it ages so why shouldn't the skin? The products cease to be effective if your skin needs shift and you could also be missing out on new technologies and ingredients that will better suit your current needs. Don't be afraid to experiment but also don't go for material available just about anywhere! Leave the fear to the person who pays the bills.

7: Prevent pimples rather than curing.

A pimple can take weeks to form under the skin, so while you're treating the one that's currently visible with a spot treatment, you're neglecting the ones that will pop up in the future. The best bet is a preventative, full-face regimen to stop pimples before they even begin to form. Thank the natural decrease in estrogens/increase in androgens we experience as we age, plus our increasingly stressful lifestyles, for this common condition.

The Quran, to Muslims, is a living miracle....

EMINENT columnist and former diplomat M. Zamir is of that rare breed --- an individual whose knowledge is broad, whose interests are diverse, whose ideas are advanced, whose conversation sparkles and beckons, and who can present complex issues in simple distillation. His latest book, Ayats from Al-Quran and Hadith from Sahih Al-Bukhari, is a labour of love, the outcome of painstaking research and much effort.

To Muslims, the religion of Islam is coeval with humanity, not a new faith preached by Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in the 7th century AD. Divinely inspired prophets and messengers of God, starting from Adam have, over countless millennia, preached its eternal message in different ages and to different peoples. The religion was perfected with the revelation of the Quran to the final prophet and messenger of God, Hazrat Muhammad. The Quran, to Muslims, is of divine orgin, the immutable word of God. The Hadith comprise the teachings and traditions of the Prophet, and are a supplement to the Quran. As the name suggests, M. Zamir's book consists of two parts. The first part relates to the Quran and the second to selected Hadith from Sahih Al-Bukhari.

Allan Nevins and Henry Steele Commager, distinguished historians both, relate a singular incident in their Pocket History of the United States. During the American Civil War, many churches, educational institutions and libraries in the Confederate States were damaged and even burnt down. The librarian of the University of Alabama could save only one volume from fire, the Quran. Nevins and Commager were surely sufficiently intrigued by this fact. There is no other reason for them to mention it in a compact volume of history, more so as it had at best a tenuous link with the scope of their work.

To Muslims, the Quran is a living miracle. The first part of M. Zamir's book is a flexibly knit, concise commentary of the Quran. The Suras are treated serially. A brief introduction to a Sura is followed by a gist of the verses. The author's observations on selected verses of the Sura are given after that. The observations or comments, based on deep study, are persuasive. A few verses are given in Arabic and also in transliteration and translation.

Many would find interest in the Doas or supplications that have been cited; the occasions where they should especially be recited have also been given. The verses chosen by the author for his observations cover a wide range, from the philosophical and mystical to the allegorical and also to those that bear upon everyday life. There are virtues that are lauded, and character traits or tendencies that are deprecated. There is an impressive bibliography at the end of the book. In the preface, the author expresses thanks to, among others, eminent scholars whose published works have helped in his research. Abdullah Yusuf Ali, whose annotated English translation of the Quran is familiar to many, is among those mentioned.

The six compilations of Sahih Hadith that are considered the most exhaustive, the most authoritative, and are cited most often are by Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Daud, Ibn Maja and Nasai. Of these, scholars have accorded primacy to Bukhari. The second part of M. Zamir's book contains selected Hadith from Sahih Bukhari. Hadith afford explanations, exegesis and insights. They serve to translate the high principles and great abstractions of the Quran into norms and guidelines for everyday life, at the personal and community levels. The author's selection covers various aspects of life and human behaviour, including faith, food, good manners, knowledge and revelation.

The book includes a good number of Doas and suggests the occasions most appropriate for their recital. There are striking similarities between some of the selected Hadith and scriptures of other faiths. On page 250 there is a Hadith that guests should be treated generously; similar to the Upanishadic dictum Athithi devo bhava Another Hadith on page 239 states that the majority of people entering the gates of Paradise “were the poor, while the wealthy were stopped at the gate”; comparable to the Gospel of Matthew (xix, 24): “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter into the Kingdom of God.” The point underscored perhaps relates to social responsibility that goes with wealth and thus the higher standards of conduct expected of the wealthy. Incidentally, at the National Prayer Breakfast on February 5 this year, President Obama quoted the following Hadith: “None of you truly believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself.”

A few improvements are suggested for any future edition. An index would make the book more reader friendly. The English titles of some of the Suras have not been given. There are also some misprints and errors in editing. On page 155, it is suggested that the words “This day have I perfected your religion for you” are from Sura An-Nasr. They are from Sura Madia, Verse lll. On page 178 there is a very brief account of the Hadith relating to the prescription of five daily prayers. During Miraj, fifty prayers a day were enjoined initially, but later “reduced to five after entreaties of the Prophet on the advice of Abraham.” The reference is to Hadith no. 345 in volume I of Sahih Bukhari. The obligation of fifty daily prayers was reduced progressively to five, after the Prophet, at the instance of Moses, went back repeatedly to God to plead for reduction. Moses was concerned that a heavy obligation would be difficult to bear for Muslims.

A few editorial errors do not, of course, detract from the purpose and value of the book, which, in fact, should be of interest to many people. It is more than a primer or introduction to those who are not knowledgeable about Islam but wish to learn. To well-informed people, it should be a work of ready reference. At a secular level it gives a sense of the Muslim ethos and social values. Certainly it is a useful addition to the literature on religion. M. Zamir has probably touched more lives in the last half a dozen years than he did in a distinguished career of nearly thirty five years as a diplomat prior to that.

Housework: Enjoy It ! ! !

Washik

Housework seems like a hassle to most. We often feel too lazy to tidy up our houses on a regular basis. But ultimately, it's us, who turn out to be the sufferers. It takes a greater deal of time to clean up when you let those clutters collect at your home for a little too long. But cleaning can be fun! If you feel the cleaning task too gruelling then put on your favourite record on the stereo. Work with fun as you dance to the tune of your favourite music. Your cleaning task will seem less tiresome.
Then there are those easy tricks for quicker cleaning. Choose your weekend to straighten up your entire house. Carry a basket filled with cleaning materials as you move about the house. This basket will save you the time of moving back and forth to get cleaning materials. While you start cleaning, remember not to jump on to a new room before you are done with the first one. Make sure you have enough time on your hands if you really wish to tidy up those hard-to-reach nooks of your rooms. We often save up those old magazines, which we know we won't read anymore. These magazines and newspapers only cast a messy look on our rooms. So stop saving them. Besides, eliminate anything that you haven't used for more than 2 to 3 years. You can free up your shelf-space if you stop collecting unnecessary things.
While cleaning, as you move around the house, pick up the things, which don't belong to those particular rooms. Later on, put them in their appropriate place. You can also rearrange your kitchen cupboards or the wardrobe while you are talking over your cordless receiver. This 2-in-one idea will help to cut your actual time into half.
If you suddenly hear that a pack of guests is about to invade your house, then instead of freaking-out, rush to the living room and tidy it up in a jiffy. How? Pay attention to obvious clutters. Remove the dead flowers, empty the ashtray, and straighten up the cushions, rugs, chairs and decorative pieces to give the room a sense of order. Then finally, turn on a lamp and spray the air freshener. In a few minutes, your chamber will change its appearance. Housework can actually be simple and fun if you really want it that way. Since we'll have to tidy up the house anyway, then let's learn to enjoy it............

Blaze at Bashundhara City

Washik

A raging blaze yesterday reduced the upper levels of the capital's Bashundhara City shopping complex to a skeleton, killing at least seven people and injuring 20 others.

Ill-equipped to douse high-rise flames, the fire fighters could do little as the fire that broke out on the 17th floor at around 1:45pm swallowed up two floors above and three below.

Later, military, police and Rab personnel joined them and brought the flames under control at around 9:00pm.

For hours, they fought an uphill battle with miserably inadequate equipment at their disposal.

Since Fire Service and Civil Defence's only aerial ladder cannot gain access beyond 13th floor, six floors of the 20-storey mall-cum-office tower remained out of the fire fighters' reach to be left in ruins.

Black plumes of smoke from the high rise spiralled upward, while blazing windowpanes, furniture and other objects rained down on the pavement.

Of those dead, Baki Billa, a member of Bashundhara's own firefighting department, slipped and fell trying to climb down a rope.

Three others however made safe landing while an air force chopper rescued another fireman from the rooftop.

The injured were rushed to nearby clinics and hospitals and treated for burns and smoke inhalation.

Lt Commander Shahidul Islam, who led a 36-member rescue team from the navy, said they searched through the affected floors, but found no-one.

However, locals said a number of people might be trapped inside as smoke and heat made it difficult to come out to safety. Their fears came true as the rescuers in a post-fire search found six bodies beside the elevator doors on the 17th floor.

Witnesses said none of the corpses could be identified as they were charred beyond recognition.

Some staff of the shopping complex, the largest in the country, said they were afraid the bodies retrieved might be their six missing colleagues'.

Earlier, hundreds of panic-stricken shoppers scrambled for exits as summer winds fanned the flames on the floors overhead.

Those who were in the cineplex and gymnasium in the shopping centre were brought out of the building through gates on the west.

The sight of upper Bashundhara burning fiercely caused panic among occupants of the neighbouring buildings.

With the television channels broadcasting live the inferno leaping across the landmark structure, thousands of people crowded the Panthapath area to see first-hand how things develop. As a result, fire trucks struggled to reach the scene.

Director General (DG) of Fire Service Brig Gen Abu Naim Mohammad Shahidullah said cause of the fire could not yet be known. Some of the shop-owners at the mall however said short-circuit might be responsible.

In the evening, the government formed a three-member committee to probe the incident.

Shahnoor Miah, public relations officer of the home ministry, told The Daily Star that Abdul Hanif, joint secretary (police) of the ministry, will head the committee that has been asked to submit report within seven workdays. The other two members are from the police and fire brigade.

State minister for home, local lawmakers, inspector general of police (IGP), DG of Rab, Dhaka Metropolitan police commissioner and other senior officials visited the scene immediately.

State Minister for Home Tanjim Ahmed Sohel said the fire could not be put out due to lack of proper firefighting equipment.

"The fire brigade should have at least five ladders, while they have only one," he observed.

Vehicular movement on Panthapath, Kazi Nazrul Islam Avenue, Sonargaon Road and Green Road were suspended to avert accidents and help the fire fighters and others reach the spot.

Casualties would have been much higher had all the offices not been closed on the weekend.